Confessions of a Former Cop-out Christian

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I believe when we reveal some of our downfalls and how we overcame them, we have the opportunity to thank God for seeing us through and help others in the same place we once were (and sometimes I visit from time to time). My intention for this post is not to make other Christians feel inadequate – it is meant to let you know I’ve been where you are and how I got out.

First, let me explain my meaning of a “cop-out” Christian. A cop-out Christian is that person who never or rarely takes advantage of service opportunities. It’s the Christian that avoids committing to anything outside of going to church on Sundays and even that is a struggle. It’s that Christian who believes the quieter they are, the less people they connect with and the less commitments to church they make the better off they are. I was this Christian.

This attitude is NOT Biblical. It is not the way we are suppose to live.

Jesus knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he was come from God, and went to God;He riseth from supper, and laid aside his garments; and took a towel, and girded himself. After that he poureth water into a bason, and began to wash the disciples’ feet, and to wipe them with the towel wherewith he was girded.Then cometh he to Simon Peter: and Peter saith unto him, Lord, dost thou wash my feet? Jesus answered and said unto him, What I do thou knowest not now; but thou shalt know hereafter. Peter saith unto him, Thou shalt never wash my feet. Jesus answered him, If I wash thee not, thou hast no part with me. Simon Peter saith unto him, Lord, not my feet only, but also my hands and my head. Jesus saith to him, He that is washed needeth not save to wash his feet, but is clean every whit: and ye are clean, but not all. For he knew who should betray him; therefore said he, Ye are not all clean. So after he had washed their feet, and had taken his garments, and was set down again, he said unto them, Know ye what I have done to you? Ye call me Master and Lord: and ye say well; for so I am. If I then, your Lord and Master, have washed your feet; ye also ought to wash one another’s feet. For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you. Verily, verily, I say unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord; neither he that is sent greater than he that sent him. If ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them.  John 13:3-17

We are to do as Jesus did – serve one another. We aren’t suppose to live a life doing only the things that are convenient. We are suppose to sacrifice for the Lord and others.

And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.Matthew 25:40

And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow meLuke 9:23

It took me a LONG TIME to get this through my head. I knew I should be doing more yet I was allowing others to benefit from service while I sat so comfortable in my home. What I was really doing was denying myself the opportunity to worship through service. Worse than that, I was a cop-out Christian. I was living in sin and didn’t even realize it.

Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.
James 4:17

So how do you get out of this cycle? Pray for guidance, deny yourself and do something! Commit yourself to something. Start out small and work your way up. Keep your word and do what you say your going to do. You will find the rewards far outweigh the sacrifice.

 

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God’s Version of Girl Power – Pt. 3 – Esther

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Finally my favorite woman in scripture – Esther. You want to know what true girl power looks like, read Esther. I remember when I first really understood what Esther was all about – it was when I watched a movie. Watching the movie encouraged me to read the whole book (which is small and doesn’t take long) and I was hooked. I was convinced this is the type of woman I want to be.

I want to be the kind of woman that conducts her life with humility and strength.  A woman that seeks after God FIRST and then follows Gods path regardless of what I think the outcome might be. I want to be the kind of person who trusts God over top of what man might say or do.

I wish I could go into details about Esther but reading it would far outweigh anything I could say. To make it short, Esther (a Jew) ended up queen of Persia (a non-Jewish “state”) and saved her people from total annihilation at the risk of her own life. Her most famous quote when she had to go into the King to speak with him without permission (even the queen wasn’t allowed to go into the kings presence without being summoned), was the following:

Go, gather together all the Jews that are present in Shushan, and fast ye for me, and neither eat nor drink three days, night or day: I also and my maidens will fast likewise; and so will I go in unto the king, which is not according to the law: and if I perish, I perish.  Esther 4:16

She didn’t come to this decision lightly, in fact, when Mordecai first told her of Haman’s plot to kill the Jewish people, she sent message to remind him she couldn’t go into the king’s presence without risking death. Fear came upon her. He then sent the following back to her:

Then Mordecai commanded to answer Esther, Think not with thyself that thou shalt escape in the king’s house, more than all the Jews. For if thou altogether holdest thy peace at this time, then shall there enlargement and deliverance arise to the Jews from another place; but thou and thy father’s house shall be destroyed: and who knoweth whether thou art come to the kingdom for such a time as this?
Esther 4:13-14

This is the kind of “girl power” I want to posses. The kind of power that only comes from above. The kind of power that comes with being obedient to my heavenly Father. The kind of power that comes from prayer and fasting. Truthfully, I don’t want girl power at all – I want God power given to me through the Holy Spirit because of the sacrifice Jesus made at Calvary. Honestly, that is the only true power!

Thank you for joining me and learning about a couple women from scripture and learning how in today’s society what they consider “girl power” is not power at all.  The power we see working through Debra the Judge and Esther the Queen is power from on high. Thank you Lord for that “power power wonder working power in the blood of the lamb!”

 

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God’s Version of Girl Power – Pt 2 – Deborah the Judge

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As promised, we are going to look at some strong, powerful, women of scripture. These women are the epitome of “girl power.” I wanted to first look at Deborah because …well…she is one of my favorites. She was placed in a role, that during the time, was outside of the norm. Scripture isn’t plain about why she was chosen over any men of the time but I suspect it was because there were no real strong men of God in the area who could do the job like Deborah could. God has a way of taking someone least expected to make an impact and work through them to do something amazing (Keep that in mind next time you decide to argue with God about a calling He’s put on your life.).

Just to clarify, during the time of the judges, not every judge was a prophet yet Deborah was a Prophetess, wife, and judge; talk about a busy woman! One day she called Barak (believed to be a general of the army – scripture isn’t clear but it would be safe to say he was ranked high within the military), and the first thing she says to him is:

…Hath not the Lord God of Israel commanded, saying, Go and draw toward mount Tabor and take with thee ten thousand men of the children of Naphtali and of the children of Zebulun? And I will draw unto thee to the river of Kishon Sisera, the captain of Jabin’s army, with his chariots and his multitude; and I will deliver him into thine hand.  Judges 4:6-7

Scripture gives an indication that God had spoken to him yet he has done nothing to prepare for the battle. Then after Deborah reminds him of God’s command, He says:

…If thou wilt go with me, then I will go: but if thou wilt not go with me, then I will not go.  Judges 4:8

Of course Deborah told him she would go but that he would not get the credit for capturing the enemies leader, Sisera, but that the honor of capturing him will be given to a woman. WOW…what a hit in the gut to Barak! However, you can give him props for still getting out there and doing what he was commanded to do. He could have let pride get in the way but instead he set all that aside and believed God for the win.

So lets get back to Deborah. Not only did she judge her people, but she yielded to the Lord in all things. She believed and trusted Him when she was told they would win the battle and believed so much she had no trouble going into the battle with Barak. If that isn’t some serious GIRL POWER I don’t know what is.

What is the take away? Believe God, trust Him during the battles of your life and be the leader God has called you to be. That is right, He has given you a place of leadership somewhere in your life. Maybe its in the home being a leader to your children, maybe its at work making ethical and morally right decisions for a company, or maybe its in ministry. Where ever your role of leadership lies, trust God, follow the path He has set before you, and don’t fear to step into battle when He leads you there. Through your obedience, God’s glory will shine!

To learn more about Deborah, read Judges Chapters 4 and 5. Next in the series, we are going to see another powerful woman of God. She is my ABSOLUTE favorite. Yes,  I have favorites but she is number 1 on my list.

 

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God’s Version of Girl Power – Part 1

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As a Christian woman and a woman who tries to “keep it real,” I have to say I’m pretty sick and tired of this “girl power” the world tries to sell us. The idea that we don’t need a man and we can do it all on our own. Yeah it sounds good, but is it Biblical? Should a Christian woman be spewing the world’s version of how we should be as women? Let’s look at scripture for the answer.

In Genesis when God created woman he said:

And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. 
And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.  Genesis 2:18, 21-24

Question – Why was a woman created in the beginning?

Answer – So the man would not be alone and to be a helper to him.

Oh boy, wouldn’t the women’s libbers just love if you told them they were created to help a man?

Does this mean that God sees a woman as a second-class citizen? OF COURSE NOT! It means a man has a role and a woman has a role (yes I realize that is another trigger word for our friends in the women’s movement) and if there is an issue with “gender roles,” I suggest you take that up with the Creator.

Now let’s look at help meet a little closer. The Hebrew words for help meet is Ezer Neged. Ezer means a helper, assistant, one who aids. Most of its occurrences in scripture it is used in a divine nature.

Our soul waiteth for the Lord: he is our help (ezer) and shield.  Psalms 33:20
But I am poor and needy: make haste unto me, O God: thou art my help  (ezer) and my deliverer; O Lord, make no tarrying.  Psalms 70:5
I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help (ezer) Psalms 121:1

So with this in mind, a Godly wife is DIVINE AID! God made her specifically to aid the man. And why — its simple — men need help! There are things a woman can do better than a man; things she is built to do.

The writer Doug Wilson wrote in Reforming Marriage, “As a result of the Creation order, men and women are oriented to one another differently. They need one another, but they need one another differently. The man needs the help; the woman needs to help.”

Come back and check out Part 2 of this series when we look a few strong women and what Biblical “girl power” really looks like.

 

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God is Faithful – are You?

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First, allow me to apologize for not being here on a regular basis. Our women’s ministry at church had a retreat and I was knee deep in the planning and execution of the retreat so a lot of things went by the wayside. Good news – a lot of the women were refreshed, renewed, delivered, and transformed by the retreat so God answered the prayers many of us were praying in regards to our little weekend. All I could do was thank Him for being so incredibly faithful.

Side note: When you honor God, He will honor you. Thank you Lord for keeping every promise you’ve ever made!

With that said, lets talk about something Jesus said during a parable He was giving in Matthew.

His lord said unto him, Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou has been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of the lord.  Matthew 25:21

Jesus is trying to teach us to prepare for the second coming of Christ, however there are a few lessons we can glean from this parable. The phrase “few things” comes from the Greek word oligos which means little or a few in number. In other words, Jesus is saying because this servant has been faithful over a small number of things, he will be the ruler over many things.

Bottom line – If we do a few things for God, they are eternal and he will MULTIPLY them in heaven!

Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone. Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: shew me thy faith without thy works, and I will shew thee my faith by my works.  James 2:17-18

Sister – its time to get to work for the Lord! Get yourself in prayer, fasting, and study. Find an older sister to mentor you and give you advise. I have one…she’s great! I wouldn’t be where I am without the Lord and her guidance. Then, start doing some tangible work for the Lord. Ask God to reveal to you where he wants you in His Kingdom. If you don’t know where you belong, start somewhere. Clean the church, volunteer in the nursery, teach a Sunday school class, or get out in your community and volunteer for a Christian organization. It doesn’t have to be something big and extravagant. It can be something small but GREAT in the Kingdom.

Don’t miss out on the blessing of being a blessing to others.

The world is waiting on a Christian just like YOU.

Love y’all!

 

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